J Scott Teo
Wannabe Writer * Widow * He/Him * 🏳️🌈
Interested in exploring how we grieve and how various groups, especially the LGBTQI+ community, confront the concept of death.
Born on stolen Lenni Lenape Land * Live on stolen Woiworung Country
- My grief is the same. I just cope with it better on a day to day basis now than I did at the start. #grief #loss #bereft #widowhood
- 20 months in, I've only just started to understand this. It made no sense to me at first!
- This is the best visual I’ve found for it. I didn’t understand it at first when other widows told me it was the case. But 16 months in I have. And I’m kind of happy about it. Because the grief is connected to my love for and memories of him. And I wouldn’t want those to reduce over time.
- Had a bittersweet dream last night. I was in bed (in the dream) and felt it move and said, “Babe. Is that you?” And Julian cuddled in next to me. And it felt so good. But then I woke up and it was just me again. Now I feel even lonelier and miss him even more. #grief #widow #bereft #partnerloss
- Another account on here said “if you haven’t lost a partner, look away”. No shade to them, but I disagree. If you haven’t lost your partner, pay attention. This could be you at any time, without notice. On 12 Oct ‘23 I had no idea it would be me. Now it is. #grief #widow #partnerloss #bereft
- Feel like I'm close to a nervous breakdown. A quick blog post on it is here. #grief #mentalhealth #stress
- A Widow's Valentine's Day Message: Take it from me; you never know how long you have with your partner/spouse. Cherish them. Enjoy every moment, even when they are annoying. When they are gone, you'll want them annoying you again, because it means they are still alive. #widowhood #grief
[This post could not be retrieved]- I’m 16 months in. And seeing others happy always makes me sad. Part of me wants to go up, shake them, and say “enjoy it. Please”.
- Losing a loved one sucks. Grief sucks. I don't want anyone to lose their child because some people seem to have nothing else better to do with their lives than hate. Trans people, including trans kids, exist. #transrightsarehumanrights #transpeopleexist #stophate
- My latest blog post. This one is a bit of a downer, so beware. jonathanrerouted.com/2025/02/04/i... #bereft #grief #movingforward
- My new blog post features a poem (or poem-like creation) that I wrote awhile back, but fits my current mood. jonathanrerouted.com/2025/02/03/b... #writing #blog #bereft #grief
- Time hasn't healed anything. Oh... it is "easier" in some ways. His absences is more familiar in some ways. But, I still miss him every day. Almost 16 months later and that has not changed. #grief #bereft #widowhood #widow #death
- Recently moved back to Melbourne. And, I am feeling lonely. Oh, I have friends here; I’ll see some later today in fact. My loneliness is not about being alone. It’s about being without him. Talk about it in my blog post here: jonathanrerouted.wordpress.com/wp-admin/pos... #grief #lonely #alone
- My therapist said something similar to me. Julian's death created a detour toward my life's destination - a happy and fulfilling life. But, it hasn't ended the journey. I'm just now on it alone and will have to take a new route. #grief #grieving #lifejourney #rerouted
- Memories of our dead loved ones are always welcome. Don’t hold onto them. Share them with us. #death #grief #grieving #memories
- "Unfortunately, that, ‘Time heals all wounds’ is just a bunch of malarkey. Time doesn't heal all wounds. It just changes you enough so you can live with them." - Madeleine Matlock (Kathy Bates) You got that right!
- I have a journal I make available for people who knew Julian to write in a memory, story, etc about him. A friend of ours visited from the US a few months back. He wrote this haiku, and it just hits. #grief #bereft #loss #haiku
- We can grieve those we loved who have died. But that grief, whilst healthy, will not bring them back and we must move on. But when we move on we can honour them and their impact on our lives, keeping their memory alive. #grief #loss #bereft #honourthem
- In Oct '23, after 14 years together, my partner died unexpectedly. I've been grieving his loss for over a year now. I still miss him everyday. But I am slowly moving forward, trying to create a new path for myself without him whilst honouring all he was to me. Our 1st & last photos together ⬇️
