I have a lot to say about the resurgent young men / masculinity discourse but for now will confine myself to: I wish I knew how to convince teenage boys/young men is how little of the world actually requires or even invites the hypermisogynist "tough guy" aesthetic

Yes! I'm quite doughy, and a little shy. But I have a wonderful "GF" who is beautiful and sexy. She likes me even when I can't open a damn pickle jar 😆

Try knocking the edge of the lid on the edge of the sink/a bench once or twice. Once you’ve got a wee divot knocked into the side of the lid it’s much easier to open.

I have one of these. Works really well:

NP, as a trans woman a) the loss of muscle mass is real, I can no longer open jars like I used to, and b) pickles are very important to me.